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Worcester, Worcestershire, United Kingdom
Born in the year of the Coronation, I'm a Baby Boomer. In April of this year I decided I too would have a Diamond Jubilee celebration and completely change my life and that of my Husband's in the process

Tuesday, 29 November 2005


Yes folks, it's a bargain, it's Buy One Get One Free time!

I normally only do one entry a week but when I wrote the previous entry I was tired and missed a lot, so this week you're getting two for your money.

I forgot to say, on Wednesday we went to the Birmingham Food College for dinner. This is where the students get to hone their future catering skills on you.

We went with my best friend from school and her husband, plus her best friend and husband from when she joined the police.

I first met this friend 20 years ago at my Best Friend's Wedding (sounds like a good title for a film!) For the first year or two I think I was a bit jealous of her relationship with  my Best Friend, after all, I saw her first! But a year or two later and I do mean a year or two later, as we only used to meet up once a year at Best Friend's Christmas Party, we started to develop a relationship of our own.

Eighteen years on, and although we only meet once or twice a year, she is one of the people I love most in the world. She is beautiful, complex, sometimes bordering on rude and arrogant, hilariously funny and is suffering from a rare and cruel disease that has already given her cancer several times and has in recent years robbed her of her sight.

We all collude in her blindness, I will greet her loudly, so that she can identify me from several feet away, she will then walk towards my voice, knowing I have given her the all clear to walk towards me, we hug and I lead her to a safe place to talk. No one would know she has entered the room not really having a clue as to her surroundings and all that onlookers have seen is a beautiful, confident woman enter the room, who has been greeted by a friend. And yet she doesn't try to hide it, she will tell anyone about her condition, she just doesn't want to be judged by it and have unwelcome pity because of it.

We had a wonderful meal the food was splendid, the conversation was loud and racuous and if we go again I think we may have to book under another name.

A cause of annoyance this week is why,WHY, is it when we have just changed to a shower that is run off the gas heated hot water system, have gas prices tripled? We could have had one of these showers years ago and have been luxuriating in the gallons of cheap hot water cascading over our bodies. But no, we have to wait until the biggest hike is gas prices ever to change our shower from electric to gas.

It was the same with our endowment mortgage policies. Everyone was having their policies mature with several thousand of pounds left over to pocket and spend on some fun. What happens the minute we join the club! Our first matures next April with a £2,000 shortfall. So no nice little trip to the Carribean on the surplus for us!

If there is a boat to be missed, then I can guarantee we have a ticket for it!!

Went to see another friend last night who has a crazy, stalker boyfriend. They have split up again for a while. I cannot understand what she is doing with him, it is a real worry to me. Here is one incident. You judge whether you would want to be with this man, or not.

She had gone into town for the evening. As they had fallen out again he was stalking her. He got thrown out of a bar she was in and he was being agressive and nasty.

She went home in the early hours of the morning (her daughter was staying with Dad for the weekend). About half an hour after getting in, she went to bed and then thought she would ring nutty boyfriend and warn him not to come round causing a scene again, as she had had enough and would call the police if he did.

She dialled his mobile and then froze, as she heard it ringing in her daughter's bedroom. He had broken in before she got home and was hiding in there, waiting.... for what?

She is normally, intelligent and sensible, what do you say to a woman that keeps taking this lunatic back, just because he cries and says he loves her. I despair!

That'll do for now, I will catch up again at the weekend.




andrewfrnd said...

And I thought I was the only one who missed the boat!

Surely Love = Respect and breaking into someones house is neither, it is a criminal offence. I would tell her to get rid of him.

tillysweetchops said...

From the little you've written of the situation, it seems to me that this man is more of an on-off boyfriend than a stalker. The fact she keeps contacting him albeit to tell him NOT to come round, he will take as encouragement.

If she's really serious about getting rid of him then there has to be no contact whatsoever and if he truly did break-in, rather than let himself in with a key, then she should report the matter to the police - if only to get his lunatic tendancies on record. He does sound a bit obsessed to say the least!

I seem to remember your son had an ex-girlfriend nutter/stalker too, or am I imagining it?

About the endowment shortfall, seems like you got off pretty lightly - the horrors I've heard about £50,000 shortfalls!

Tilly x

lindaggeorge said...

Yes, my son did have a stalker too. There must be more about than we thought!

lyndajeanlynch said...

Well Namesake,
It is that other Lynda from Ireland here,
I have just caught up with you and yours after a spell in hospital, my favourite [and only] cat being killed and my mother suddenly expiring.
I hope I am excused for getting out of date!
I am now full of admiration for your teaching qualities, animals I can cope with quite admirably but children [especially 19 yr. old at uni] NO.
Regarding the gas prices. we don't have it here but we do have OIL. The Aga runs on oil and the heating. The Aga is not being sacrificed but the heating has only been on once this season and I am currently typing in a huge coat! Fortunately we have big old fireplaces and an abundance of rotting 250 yr. plus beech trees, only snag is the work involved in logging. I can still gaze at the root of one nearly 2 years on as it is so big we have not found anything heavy enough to shift it yet.
I really thought I'd just tell you that you look OK to me, and your comments on life make me smile, during a wet and dismal spell here. Just think, one young fellow is your slave for life!
Keep up the blogging.